Bullying: It’s time to focus on solutions

Senior Constable Patterson noted that the police and legal system tend not to use the term "bullying," because it softens people's perception of offences that may be very serious.

The police call bullies' offences what they really are: "Assault," "intimidation" and "online harassment."

If we also begin using the correct terms for these offences, we will begin to acknowledge the serious impact that bullying has on victims. We will also send a clear message to bullies that their actions won't be tolerated anymore.

What parents can do:

If you notice signs that your child might be the victim of bullying, raise your concerns sensitively with them. Most important of all, listen and get all the facts, then work with the school to try and resolve the situation.

If you feel that the school isn't doing enough, go to the police. Senior Constable Patterson noted that the police usually contact the school as a first step and this may spur the school to take further action.

"Don't forget that it is a criminal offence to make another person scared for their safety and the police can, and do, get involved daily," says Senior Constable Patterson.

However, he stressed that it is important to have evidence. One of the most common reasons that a school fails to take legal action is because they don't have proof of the offence.

In the absence of evidence, he recommends that parents encourage their children to ask witnesses of the bullying to write down what they saw.

Court action is not the only police solution. They may first seek another way of resolving the bullying. For example, a talk with the police is often enough of a warning to a bully that they need to stop harassing the victim.

Ultimately, if you have tried everything and you are still not satisfied that your child is safe from bullying the move schools! Many kids thrive with a fresh start.

Set a good example: