On April 28, 2002, the Larry
King Live show was on Multiple Sclerosis (MS). From Mr. King's
"Tonight, four high-profile people fighting one
still-mysterious disease. TV talk show host, author, activist Montel
Williams, who has multiple sclerosis. My good friend and lawyer Mark
Barondess. He has MS too, but he hasn't let it slow him down. Alan Osmond,
one of the famed singing Osmond Brothers, another MS patient. And the
amazing Nancy Davis. She also has multiple sclerosis. Her foundation is
behind the famed Race to Erase MS.”
As I watched the show, my initial interest gave way to a vague
discomfort. I became more and more troubled at what I was hearing and
seeing and finally turned away in disgust.
Now don't get me wrong. I like Larry King. I watch his show a lot. And
I'm grateful that the public is being made more aware of MS and how
widespread it is. But are TV Talk Show Host Montel Williams, Alan Osmond,
the “amazing” Nancy Davis, or a practicing lawyer who is still able to
not “let MS slow him down” really representative of people with MS?
What about those of us who have MS and are not remarkably “stout and
courageous”? Frankly, if I hear one more “hero” story I think I'll
scream. I'm not a hero. My wife, Karen, who is equally affected by my MS,
is not a hero. We are everyday people, with everyday feelings, and
The “snap shot” testimonies of Larry King's guests were just that,
“snap shots”, and remarkably tarnish-free snapshots. But my life and
my MS isn't a snapshot, and can't be understood that way. My MS is
progressing. My wife and I struggle to keep up with my limitations, which
change in the way they affect us on almost a weekly basis.
And we aren't the only ones.
Karen recently went on a MSers' caregiver's retreat. She met caregivers
whose partners’ MS is similar to mine. Not one of their stories sounded
anything like Larry King's guests' stories. They talked about wheelchairs
and scooters, marks on the walls, making changes to their homes only to
have their partners worsen before they could use the improvements.
And they talked about death.
Karen met a woman whose husband died a couple of weeks before the
retreat. He had been diagnosed with MS only two years before. MS had
diminished the quality of his life to the point where he was in hospital
when he died.
You know what he died of?
He choked to death. He had had difficulties swallowing (a condition
caused by MS and one with which I am very familiar). So though he didn't
technically die from MS, he died from complications arising from his MS.
(Where were the nurses?)
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