Gay marriage: an argument against

While we have no idea of the biology or the psychology of sexual orientation we do know that it is deeply rooted and not amenable to manipulation. In other words it is gifted in the same way that being hetero is gifted.

The gift makes them different, they cannot look forward to generating children out of their love. They need a third person to produce a family.

This is an important difference that cannot be erased by in-vitro fertilization even though healthy and well cared for children may result. It is the fundamental reason that gay relationships may be approved of and blessed but may not be equated with traditional marriage.

To do so is to ignore difference for the sake of fairness.

I think gays should give up on marriage and live out the freedom that has been gained for them. Being free of raising a family enables men and women to focus on pursuits that would be impossible when locked into the necessities of economics and location that come with raising a family in a similar way that the Roman church has benefited from celibate clergy, but without the loneliness.

This freedom must have been important in allowing the great gay artists and writers and dramatists and poets to have the flexibility and freedom to create so many works that enrich us.

While I am not sure of gay pride, pride being a sin, if gays have pride in being gay, then why do they want to mimic traditional marriage between straights? It will always sit badly for the reasons outlined above.

Why do they want to erase the one obvious difference between them and the straight population? My hunch is that the language of human rights, that is often not useful in these cases, plus the ideology of equalitarianism pushes both straights and gays to a total erasure of the difference and they will only be content when this has been achieved.

This will mean that the terms "husband" and "wife" will be swallowed up in political correctness and our language will again be reduced by the idea that we are all the same.

My message for gays? That traditional marriage is not for you is not an insult or an example of discrimination but a recognition of real difference that you faced when you first came out. That difference will not be submerged in traditional marriage. It is valuable; Give thanks.